DID JON VOIGHT HATE BILLY BOB THORNTON?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coŗch - Doc Love
I purchased your Dating Dictionary recently, and itís been very informative in showing
me where Iíve made mistakes with women in the past. As a result, Iíve had tremendous
success with your advice in talking to and getting positive responses out of women. But
there is still one problem that seems to come up and Iím powerless to solve it.
The last girl I really liked, Tanya, ended up dumping me out of the clear blue. The last
day I was with her, she mentioned that her father ďapprovedĒ of me, and that he never
approved of anyone before. Before this happened she acted differently towards me (i.e.,
with high Interest Level), but once I got the parental seal of acceptance it was over the
very next day. Could it be that her Interest Level was lowered because her parents
approved of me? This is not the reason that Tanya gave me for ending it, but I have
noticed it in a few relationships in the past.
Iíve talked to other women about this, and they admit to wanting a good guy that appears
to be a ďbad boyĒ to the parents. It seems like they want to go against their parentís
wishes. I guess my question to you is, is this just Womanese for their low Interest Level
in me, or could it be that women donít want their folks to like their boyfriends?
Now it seems that I get along with womenís parents VERY well, and they all like me. (At
least to my face they do.) But as soon as the relationship has gone on long enough for me
to have met their parents a few times, everything falls apart. Can you give me any advice
on how to handle this situation, and how not to have the parents like me so much? Or is
this not really a problem after all, and am I just looking for an excuse for why I always
seem to screw it up with females I like?
Your book has opened up my eyes, and allowed me to see more of what women want. I can see
more clearly that the guys who act in the way that you advise have women around them all
the time. I look forward to learning more and coming closer to mastery of ďThe System.Ē
In the meantime, I need help solving my ďparents problem.Ē I really hope you can help
Thanks, Doc. Youíre the best.
Gino - who never thought heíd run into something like this
Allow me to straighten you out about something right up front. Being rejected by Tanya was
out of the clear blue FOR YOU. For Tanya, it was preplanned.
So, Tanyaís parents never approved of anyone but you before. Now think about this, my
friend. Hereís a girl giving you the old heave-ho, and in the process serving up a tall
tale to throw you off the scent of the real reason Ėher lack of interest in you -- and
youíre ready to buy it. Just because two things happen at the same time (i.e., Tanya
decides to dump you and her parents announce that they think youíre okay) you jump
automatically to the conclusion that itís a case of cause and effect, and you donít
consider the possibility that itís all pure coincidence and that one thing has nothing
to do with the other.
Iím trying to train you guys to be forensic love scientists, to look very closely at the
evidence, and thatís what you have to do in order to know whatís really going on
between you and your woman. You have to consider all the possibilities in every case and
not run off half-cocked towards a conclusion that doesnít hold water. Like my cousin
Doctor Love would say, ďYou canít just rush to judgment led by your exploding Interest
Level or your supersensitive ego.Ē
Now sure, itís possible that Tanya cut you loose because her folks approved of you Ė
that is, if she hates her parentsí guts and sheís going to end up being the psycho
wife from hell who will make Angelina Jolie or J-Lo look clinically sane. In which case
you donít want her anyway.
Tanya didnít give you a reason for ending your romance? Youíre kidding me, Gino! You
mean women arenít always forthcoming with the straight truth about why theyíre calling
it quits? You mean that actually happens? Wow, man, Iím shocked!
But if other women in the past have told you that they prefer bad boys and donít want
their parents to approve of their choices, youíre running around with a bunch of
nutcases. Dude, are you picking up girls when the Jerry Springer Show lets out? Or are you
handing out tickets to the wackos going in?
To you Psych majors, good girls who are raised properly by good parents WANT to make sure
their parents LOVE the new boyfriend. Honest.
Pal, of course all these excuses are just Womanese for your ex-girlfriendsí low Interest
Level in you! Because youíre history, arenít you? Think about what youíre saying
here. Girls donít want their parents to like their boyfriends? Like my cousin Rabbi Love
says, ďYouíre attacking the family unit, my son, and you shouldnít do that.Ē
Iím sure parents like you, Gino. And their daughters like you, too -- for a little
while. But take my word for it, itís strictly coincidence that when you meet the folks
everything falls apart. The only thing really falling apart was the girlsí Interest
Level, as it did a nosedive from 95% to 45%. So these poor parents arenít your problem.
The problem is YOU Ė you lower Interest Level. Her mother and father didnít lower
Interest Level, you did.
My book hasnít opened your eyes all the way yet, Gino. Unfortunately, itís opened only
half of one eye. Which means you havenít spent enough time with it. You need to read it
again and again until the deeper truths of my principals sink into your mind.
Why donít you act like the guys who have women around them all the time? Iíll tell you
why. Because instead of imitating Cary Grant, you end up making these poor girls your mama
or your psychiatrist, like all the other guys who screw up. But donít feel bad, man. Youíre
not alone. Youíve got tons of company out there.
So to sum it all up, you donít have a ďparents problem.Ē Youíve got a problem
keeping a girlís Interest Level in the nineties. But memorize my techniques, and youíll
enter the Promised Land with a smiling face.
Remember, guys: when something goes wrong, itís usually your fault.
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Doc Love is ŗ tŗlk show host ŗnd entertŗinment speŗker who coŗches men in his
seminŗrs. For the pŗst 30 yeŗrs he hŗs ŗsked thousŗnds of women, "Why do you stŗy
with one mŗn versus ŗnother?"
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