WHAT IF SHE DOESNT HAVE A HOME PHONE NUMBER?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Ive been studying your laws of relationships for quite some time now. Ive read
your book about six times over and have practically memorized the entire volume from cover
to cover, so I know how you feel about the necessity of getting the home phone number.
Thats where my question arises. How would you deal with a girl who only has a cell
phone and thus only a cell phone number?
This is the case where I live in China. As a bit of background information, many people
who live in southern China came from the northern part of the country and are very poor.
They only rent their houses and cannot afford to connect a home phone. As a result, many
of them, if they have phones at all, only own cell phones.
This is exactly what I ran into recently. I met Hui at a restaurant where I work. She came
in to eat, I was very attracted to her, and as per your instructions asked for her home
phone number. When she gave it to me, I called and it turned out to be her cell phone. I
didnt leave a message, because it didnt conform to your rules.
The next time I saw her, I asked for the home phone number again, and she told me that she
didnt have one. (By the way, I verified this with my female cousin, who knows where
Hui lives, so I have to assume that Hui was telling me the truth and not just trying to
dodge me because of low Interest Level.)
One other question, Doc. Your book seems to be written to apply to people with a high
level of understanding, like Americans. Can The System really be applied to
women all over the world?
Thanks for all your advice.
Lawrence - who wants to know if he should dial again
First of all, Im very glad you mentioned the word memorize, because
thats what a lot of my students dont do. They dont memorize my
techniques, and to really get them, to really make them as powerful as they can be, they
have to be internalized and practiced, and I want to complement you on your diligence.
Youve made a solid start toward becoming a master of dating strategy. As General
Love says, The guy who ventures onto the battlefield of dating unprepared is the guy
who is setting himself up for disaster.
But it looks like you didnt quite memorize enough. Lawrence -- youre talking
to one female (your cousin) whos giving you advice on another female (Hui)? This is
a fundamental error, and youd know that if you paid closer attention to what you
read in my book. What if the two gals are tighter than you think (and chances are good
they are!)? If your conversation with your cousin gets back to Hui, all it does is show
her that youre an insecure guy and cant do your own dirty work, in addition to
the fact that you cant keep a secret. You just dropped 10 points on the Interest
Level scale if your cousin has a big yap, and as my cousin Fast Eddie Love
would say, Show me one who doesnt!
Next, you tell me you assume Hui told you the truth. Assume? You bad boy! You
were doing so well back in the first paragraph! As the great dating detective Sher-Love
Holmes says, Never assume ANYTHING when it comes to women! But your second
point is right on the mark. Hui could have been trying to dodge you. Sometimes a woman
gives you the cell number when they dont want to give you the home number. But
well get a little more into that in a second.
Regarding your question about whether The System works for women the world
over, let me give you some background information. Lawrence, I lived in Los Angeles when I
interviewed thousands of women to formulate my techniques. L.A. is an international city
with people living and visiting from all over the world. I happened to be residing right
next to UCLA, which has a high percentage of Asian students. Many of them attended my
seminars, and they followed up with countless testimonials that The System did
indeed work. And let me tell you why: because the women in China and the women in America
want a confident guy. They want a guy who practices Self-Control, and they want a guy
whos a Challenge. It doesnt make any difference if shes from Montana or
Mongolia -- THE SYSTEM CUTS ACROSS SOCIAL, RELIGIOUS, ECONOMIC AND GEOPGRAPHIC
Aside from The System being based on the truth, what I love about it is the
fact that its logical. Now you read in my book that its mandatory that you get
the home phone number. Hui gave you her cell phone number. What does that mean? For
arguments sake, lets say she told you the truth and she really doesnt
have a home phone number. In this case, she gets credit for giving you the home phone
But what you should have done, Lawrence, like a good love detective on Love And
Order, was ask: Is this your home phone number? And when she countered
with No, its my cell phone number, you should have insisted
Id like to have your home number too. At that point she would have said
People from the north are all poor and only have cell phone numbers, or she
would have come up with a whopper. But at least you would have resolved the issue once and
The point is that you want to come as close as you can to getting that home phone number.
Even in America today there are over 145 million cell phones. Lots of girls live with
their parents, or they go to school, or theyre hard to get hold of and so they rely
on their cell phones. But I would always rather you have both numbers. The more important
one is always the home number.
Nevertheless, Lawrence, you have to use common sense and ask yourself, How can I
modify what Doc says in a given situation -- for example, where they dont have
phones on the walls of some homes here in China? How can I logically hold onto his
principles in a tough spot and not deviate from them?
So in this case the cell phone counts as the home phone number. But if she has one in her
house, you have to get that one. If she doesnt have a cell or a home phone, then
youll take two tin cans with some string connecting them.
Remember, guys: I dont care where this girl is from, just do what I tell you and
shell love you forever.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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