DOES THE AVERAGE GUY EVER REALLY STAND A CHANCE?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Although I know you usually only comment on people with specific dating questions, I was
wondering what your take was on the television show Average Joe. My opinion is, after
watching two outings, that the womens behavior reflects a lot of your teachings.
On the show, a bunch of average guys (i.e., guys who arent great-looking
and have little experience with Beautiful Women), get to compete for the attentions and
affections of an extremely hot-looking babe. The twist comes at the end, where after
several dates with the average guys, a couple of hunky stud-muffins enter the picture to
How this relates to your System (which I purchased, and it helped a lot,
thanks!) is that the average guys, besides being just average-looking, are not a Challenge
at all. In fact, they constantly laid out their hearts and bared their souls to the
Beautiful Women only to be repeatedly dumped at the conclusion of the contest.
At the end of both competitions, the beautiful girl surprisingly (but maybe not to those
who read your articles) picked the good-looking guy over the average guy, despite only
knowing them for a short time. The icing on the cake was that the good-looking guys were
emotionally remote and looked like they could care less.
Whats really funny is all the comments on the net that crucify the women on the show
for being so shallow. That may be true, but all us average Joes want them anyway, right?
What do you think, Doc? Do guys like us ever really have a chance with Beautiful Women? Is
it even worth the struggle? Or should we stay with our own kind and not risk all that
Lenny - who still has his fantasies of scoring a 10
First of all, let me congratulate you on starting to learn my techniques. Youll
never go wrong practicing a set of proven principles. As my cousin Fast Eddie
Love likes to say, With a little spit and polish, youre gonna be a
master! That is, as long as you stay with it. Dedication and practice are the keys.
But its obvious by your comments about Average Joe that youre already
sharpening your analytical faculties when it comes to the dating game and are on the right
road. Nevertheless, I want to touch on some of the specifics of your letter to make sure
you stay there.
Lets start with this: Lenny, the average guys should be dumped at the end of the
show. Besides being just average-looking, theyre not Challenges. So they have two
things working against them. Why wouldnt they be dumped? Its common sense,
You mention that the hotties on Average Joe go for the hunks despite knowing
them for only a short time. Here your premise is dead wrong, pal. Its BECAUSE the
girls only knew them for a brief period of time that they picked them. Look at it from the
girls perspective: if she doesnt know two guys all that well, and ones
good-looking and the other isnt, whats going to happen? Think about it.
Lets reverse the process. If youre given a choice between two women, and
ones nothing much in the looks category and ones a ringer for Elizabeth
Hurley, who are you going to pick? Maybe the gorgeous babe has a lousy personality and the
other doesnt, but how are you going to know that in a short amount of time?
Next, you report that the good-looking guys appear as if they could care less. Well, this
is what you average guys should be doing! The ploy worked, didnt it? Nobody is
attracted to desperation (ie., baring of souls, wearing of hearts on sleeves, blubbering
about weaknesses, etc.). The name of the game, at least at first, is pretending you
dont care. Being secure and mysterious. In other words, being a CHALLENGE.
Thats what you have to do in the beginning, whether shes an average woman or
the second coming of Kim Basinger. Do it, and watch what happens. It never fails, buddy.
Theres another reason why the women on Average Joe went with the guys who are the
best-looking. Why? Because it is short-term. Id like to come back six months later
and check whether those babes are still dating the hunks. Did they pick the handsome dudes
because they think its the right thing to do since theyre on TV? You can bet
the house those romances arent going very far.
Do average guys ever really have a chance with the Beautiful Woman you ask? Ah, now
thats the million-dollar question. And a million-dollar question demands a
million-dollar answer. As Sal The Fish Love puts it, The first thing you
have to do if you want a chance with a Beautiful Woman is get yourself a 120-foot yacht. A
big, humongous, 120-foot yacht!
Of course, that would be doing things the hard way. And you dont have to do it the
hard way, Lenny. Its not going to be a struggle if you memorize what I teach you. I
make it easy to deal with Beautiful Women as well as wallflowers -- all women. The years
of torment youve endured at the hands of the opposite sex will be over once you
stick completely to my guidelines.
To you Psych majors, what youre looking for anyway is Attitude. As long as
youre attracted to a woman, and shes a Giver and shes Flexible,
shes going to be the one for you. And over time she will grow prettier and end up
being the Beautiful Woman youve always wanted because of her inner qualities
qualities that a lot of the plastic women dont have. In an age of phonies, my plan
leads you to the genuine article. And that, not some silicone fake, is who you want for
the long haul.
Lenny, a fundamental fact of life is that youre always risking rejection. When you
get into the bathtub you can slip and break your neck. When you climb into your car you
can be killed in a smashup. You can be asleep in your bed and an airplane engine can come
crashing through the roof and land on your head. (Dont laugh its
happened.) Life is one huge risk. Every time you breathe youre taking the risk of
rejection and pain. Theres no way around it except to stop living. So get out there
and have some fun.
As Ive said in my books, practice on the average-looking girls with the huge fannies
and slowly make your way up to the razor-thin beauties. By the time you get there,
youll be irresistible. The way youre going to get a 10 is to
memorize all my principles.
Remember, guys: if you want somebody beautiful, you have to practice on somebody average.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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