SHOULD YOU KEEP HER IF SHE CENSORS YOUR READING?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I realize that this is probably one of the more unusual letters youve ever received,
but I dont have much choice but to send it.
I recently purchased The System, but Im planning to return it. Its
not that theres anything wrong with The Dating Dictionary itself. In fact, I was
drawn to buying it after reading your articles on the web. I especially liked your
theories having to do with the fact that men are largely dominated by women, and that we
have far less of a voice than they do in relationships. Also, it was nice that there was a
guy offering help rather than the usual female love doctors who all preach pretty much the
Im sure youre sitting there asking yourself, So whats this
guys problem? Its a little embarrassing, Ill admit, but here it
is: my girlfriend, Jessica. She wasnt very pleased with me ordering your book in the
first place, and when she read some of the sections, it caused some very heated arguments.
She thought the chapter about men having to be a Challenge was particularly ridiculous.
Its her opinion that we should not play any head games with each other. She says we
should be completely open and honest with one another, and your teachings prevent that.
Jessica has always been the kind of girl who likes to have her own way, Doc, and since
shes very beautiful, I tend to give it to her. In this case I figured that since
its just a small matter of returning a book, Id do it and preserve the peace.
Besides, I promised Jessica that I would, and we dont lie to each other, ever.
I have to admit though that since I made the decision Ive been wracked with some
nagging doubts about whether its the right course of action. I mean, it is just a
book, so whats the big deal, right? Cant I read what I want? Are
Jessicas objections some kind of attempt to control me? Does this bode poorly for
our future together?
On the other hand, I dont want to lose her. Weve been together for about 10
months now and are planning on getting married soon. Your book was the first major wedge
to come between us, but this whole conflict has me wondering if Im making a mistake
without knowing it.
I know it seems crazy, Doc, but its come down to a matter of Jessica versus you.
Even though Im sending your book back, Im still curious to know your opinion
of my situation.
Bruce - whos choosing the line of least resistance
Yours is a curious question, but its not one that surprises me given the power of my
ideas. Whenever the truth is encountered, there is going to be a certain amount of denial.
And thats whats going on here.
Whats really interesting, though, is that you cant see the pattern of
whats happening right under your nose. Here youre reading 10, 15, maybe even
20 of my articles, at an average of maybe 1,200 words apiece, and you cant find one
thing you disagree with. Right, Bruce? In fact, youre so motivated by my columns
that you agree to part with $99 for The System. You read it, and you still
cant find anything to disagree with! Because it makes perfect sense, doesnt
it? Yes, it does. Furthermore, you seem to need something from me. Now, did Jessica put a
.45 to your head and order you to put the book down? Well, youre acting like she
did. The point is that you yourself are ultimately responsible for whats happening
But lets move on to Jessica anyway. Let me ask you a question, pal. Were her
arguments against Doc Love logical? Did she allow you to explain why you were reading my
book? The answer in both cases is no. If she had taken the time, she would have understood
assuming she has the capacity that Challenge is most definitely not a head
game. Challenge is the love ether in the dating game. And what Challenge does is keep you,
as a partner, always fresh. But what Jessicas proposing and implying and of
course this issues from the most popular female love doctor herself, Oprah is
Let it all hang out! Air all your dirty laundry, your weaknesses, your
insecurities in other words, every negative thing about you and somehow
shes going to want to stay around! Makes sense, right? WRONG!
Bruce, I want you to be honest with your woman at all times. Its the OPENNESS I
worry about. Nobody wants a simpering weakling, least of all a woman. You keep that up and
see how long you hold onto Jessica or any other babe, for that matter.
But, you protest, She likes to have her own way. Know what I hear you saying,
cowboy? That you give Jessica her own way all the time. I hear you NEVER saying NO to this
girl. (As a matter of fact, Id bet the house no ones ever said no to her.)
Thats why youre sending the book back. Do you realize the amount of pain and
misery and domination (of you!) thats going to be involved when youre living
with this cant-take-no-for-an-answer prima donna for the next 42 years under the
same roof, day after day, week after week, month after month? You give her the power to
dominate because of your high Interest Level -- because shes beautiful. But
youre not looking at whats on the inside, the part youre going to marry.
Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, After a while, her looks aint so hot anymore.
Youre going to have to live with her Attitude.
Youre not just returning my book, Bruce; youre returning THE TRUTH. Because
you cant handle the truth, and neither can Jessica. Yes, youll go ahead and
preserve the peace at any price, just like Chamberlain when Hitler rattled his saber. And
heavens no, I wouldnt want you to fib to Jessica. I would just like to see you grow
a little something in a certain part of your body so that your voice will deepen -- get
what Im saying, pal?
Unfortunately for you, Bruce, once you have Doc Loves method in your head,
youll never get rid of those nagging doubts. Youre going to be hearing my
voice for as long as youre involved with Jessica, book or no book. Know why? BECAUSE
I SPEAK THE TRUTH, GUY -- THE TRUTH!
And no, apparently youre not allowed to read what you want. And you couldnt in
Nazi Germany either. Sure, Jessicas objections are an attempt to control you
she always has, hasnt she? Why would things change now? Shes getting her way
again, isnt she? This is just an extension of whats always been there. Does it
bode poorly for your future together? Not for Jessica! Shes going to have a great
time being in total control of her wimp of a husband! With you around shell have her
own way for the rest of her life!
Before we go into your situation, I want to point out one last thing to you.
If Jessica read my book cover to cover, she would have discovered my maintenance program,
which is made up of Affection, Romance, and Respect. And she would have said to herself,
Look at what this guys studying hes going to give me the three
things I want most over the long haul! But she didnt take the time. And, like
you said, she calls all the shots, all the time.
As to your situation, Ill let my cousin Fast Eddie Love do the talking
for me: Youre in a hell of a lot of trouble here, baby!
Remember, guys: you never want to date a girl whos a prison guard.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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