WOULD ORLANDO BLOOM EVER WASTE TIME WITH EMPTY CHITCHAT?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I met Caprice, this total knockout, at the mall last week, worked up the courage to talk
to her for a bit, and asked for her home phone number. She took out a pen, wrote it on my
hand, and enthusiastically told me to call her. At that point, her Interest Level seemed
Perhaps it was a mistake to call on Sunday, but I’m going to be out of town on Monday
and Tuesday, and felt it would be okay to do that. In the first few minutes of the
conversation we agreed on a Starbucks coffee date for Wednesday. She wanted to talk
longer, but I indicated that I had some things to take care of before leaving town. She
asked if I’d call her before Wednesday to talk, and when I reminded her I’d be out of
town, she said I should just use my cell phone and call her anyway. I joked around, told
her I knew she was dying to talk with me, but that she’d just have to wait until our
date. When she said “Fine, then, just call me whenever you find the time in your busy
schedule,” she sounded a bit upset and quickly hung up.
Doc, in the past, I would have probably called Caprice right back and apologized, and then
talked with her for a long time to make up for my little transgression. But since I’ve
studied your techniques, I decided not to roll over like a puppy dog and instead stand my
ground and be a Challenge.
But at this point I’m not sure what to make of Caprice’s getting upset when I told her
I couldn’t talk. It seemed pretty clear at first that she had high Interest Level, but
now I don’t know if she’s just highly interested, or whether she’s Inflexible and
rigid and I should stay away because that can only mean further problems down the road.
What’s your take, Doc? I always trust your insights and I hope you can help me to see
Baron - who suddenly isn’t so sure he wants to go through with it
Before we get into the messy part of your situation, I want to bestow upon you the
Congressional Medal of Honor for Dating. My man, you are brave. You wouldn’t believe how
many guys wouldn’t have done what you did. Confronted with the most dangerous creature
in the world – the Beautiful Woman -- you said to yourself: “She’s not wielding a
machete. She’s not carrying an Uzi. And I don’t see a grenade, either. I’m going to
approach her. What’s the big deal, right? What’s the worst that could happen?”
And YOU DID IT. You got cojones, pal. Most guys in that situation would have been
lily-livered cowards. Congratulations to you, Baron. And to you Psych majors, you have the
ability to do the same thing; all you need is the guts to follow through.
Calling a girl on Sunday night is fine. Do it on the late side – most people are at home
then and it’s a good time to catch them. Now, what I’m going to say here is really
important: you did the right thing by not giving in to Caprice’s whim to chitchat about
nothing. Here’s an old salesman’s adage: once you get the order signed and the check
in your pocket, get the hell out of the house! And like Sal “The Fish” Love says, “You
can only blow it by hanging around.”
When Caprice wanted you to stay on the line and shoot the breeze, you should have said,
“Hey, you’re not an insecure girl, are you?” When she asked you to call her on your
cell phone, you should have fired back (playfully, of course), “Baby -- how can you be
insecure with that body and that face? It doesn’t make a lick of sense!”
But another possible scenario here is that Caprice is a control freak. Or worse, she
really has low Interest Level in you. Some babes will give you the number, but when it’s
time for action, you’re never going to see her in public – or anywhere else, for that
matter. So make sure you look at all the possibilities. Remember, you always have to be a
You were smart to joke away Caprice’s demand to talk longer. But apparently she didn’t
get the message. When she dropped that caustic remark about your overloaded schedule, you
should have come back with “Fine, honey. I know that down deep you’re into Challenge,
and that’s why I can’t call you. But I’ll see you at Starbucks at six. Just hold on
for three more days. You can do it.” And then hung up. And left it that way.
You don’t have to talk anymore. And you don’t have to accept Caprice’s calls if she
phones you. If you show up at Starbucks Wednesday at six and she’s not there, fine. Look
on the positive side -- you found out the truth about her sooner instead of later and you
wasted very little time or money in the process.
Want to know why Caprice got a little cranky and hung up on you? Because Miss Control
Freak didn’t get her way. You’ve got to remember something: she’s so good-looking
that priests and homosexuals are asking her out. She’s getting her way damned near all
the time. And believe me, I’ve seen six-foot-five linebackers who look like huskies
instead of puppy dogs in the grip of the Caprices of the world, and they roll right over
without a fight. They fall apart. Here this little girl they’re chasing weighs all of
115 pounds and they’re going to pieces. Sickening, right? But that’s not going to
happen to you, Baron.
If you were to fall in love with this girl, I would agree that you should be afraid of her
rigidity and demands. But you’re going to go out and practice on her. And that’s all
you’re going to do. You’re going to go out and have fun with Caprice. Then you’re
going to run back home and read the Dating Dictionary. Afterwards you’re going to go out
with Caprice again. When you stop learning from her, it’s adios!
Above all, don’t allow YOUR Interest Level to go up. If it starts to rise, you’ve got
to drop this girl faster than MacDonald’s dropped Kobe Bryant. If you don’t, you’re
going to have one nasty problem on your hands. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love would say,
“Be careful. Remember, you’ve only seen Caprice with her clothes on.”
You’re dealing with a deadly serpent here, my friend. So you’ve got to be like one of
those charmers in India who plays the flute to lure the snake out of its basket and make
it spread its hood and dance without getting bitten. Because once you get bitten, you’re
dead. And it won’t take long.
Remember, guys: never turn your back on a cobra.
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