DOES ROBERT REDFORD EVER TELL HIS DATE ABOUT HIS GIRLFRIEND?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I donít imagine you get many letters from men as old as me, and maybe you wonít be
interested in my situation, but here goes anyway.
I am in my seventies, retired, widowed for five years, with no attachments until recently.
Now I may have too many. On a group tour to Las Vegas last fall, I met woman number one,
Meredith, and we immediately felt a mutual attraction, spent a lot of time together on the
tour and even became quite romantic by the time the excursion was over. She lives rather
far away, in the Midwest, while I live in California, and we have talked weekly on the
phone since our return to our homes and plan another trip together in the spring. Meredith
is liberal and broadminded, and has suggested that our relationship is not full-time but
for only when we meet on our trips.
Now, out of the blue, comes woman number two. Cassandra and I actually met 18 months ago
on another group tour, sat together for some meals, and have exchanged occasional e-mails
since. We did not get romantically close, as I did with Meredith. Last week Cassandra sent
me a greeting card and asked if I would be interested in joining her -- ďseparate roomsĒ
-- for a group tour to some mutually chosen place later this year. Perhaps foolishly I
e-mailed back an agreement and now there have been a flurry of possible destinations back
But Doc, suddenly I am worried. I donít want to risk losing either of these two
wonderful women, and so I am afraid of telling one about the other. If my relationship
with Cassandra looked like it was becoming deeper, I would not be morally able to handle
both of them simultaneously.
So my question is this -- how much should I tell one woman about the other? This might
seem to be something of an old-fashioned question to ask, but itís important to me. I
thank you for your consideration, and hope you can help.
Hill - who canít believe heís in the position at his age
Actually, I get letters from lots of men in their seventies and eighties. Once I even got
a letter from a fellow who was 92 and having a tough time making up his mind about which
of four women he should take on a cruise to Hawaii. So heck, youíre still a kid.
And whatís great about you guys is that youíre still breathing, walking, talking and
you still love women! One thing we know about you, Hill, is that youíre not over the
hill! And keep this in mind -- when you can say you have too many attachments with a
straight face, you know youíre in heaven. So count your blessings.
I appreciate your telling me about your mutual attraction with Meredith. But what you
really should be looking at is her attraction to you -- only. Because my principles stress
the reality that your attraction toward her doesnít mean anything. Donít get me wrong,
guys; I want you to like the girl. But donít ever forget whatís really the most
important number in the equation, and thatís her Interest Level in you.
Iím shocked that Meredith doesnít want a full-time relationship with you. Are you
telling me she just wants to use you for your body? Is that whatís really going on here?
In that case, I would just tell her that youíre a churchgoing man and you donít
believe in that kind of stuff. Youíre nobodyís boy-toy. (In the meantime, keep her on
the line. She sounds like a lot of fun.)
Before we get to your major question, Hill, let me just point out something great thatís
going on here and that all you guys should pay close attention to. Youíre really working
these tours like a pro. Some guys go to Yoga class, some guys get on Match.com, and some
guys take cooking classes, and some guys climb mountains with the Sierra Club. I always
tell you guys that you have to find something youíre good at if you want to meet women,
and my man; youíre the master of the tour buses. Congratulations to you. Youíve found
what works for you. Thatís one of the keys to becoming a winner with the girls Ė and
much older girls, too.
Now, letís get to the heart of the matter. Buddy, you donít have to risk losing either
of these two wonderful messengers of love from above. And you know what? Weíre going to
help you snag women numbers three and four! Because you need the practice. And you have to
exhaust all the possibilities before you get the right one.
So why in the world would you tell one about the other? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love
says, ďDo you think James Bond would ever do that in one of his movies?Ē You know the
answer as well as I do. Then why would you even think about doing it? (And remember, you
and Sean Connery are the same age!)
If I gave you a million bucks, would you be able to handle two women at the same time
then? To you Psych majors, you tell one woman ZERO about the other. Yours isnít an
old-fashioned question, Hill Ė itís a brainwashed question. Turn off Oprah and all the
other female love doctors who donít have menís best interests at heart. Iím the only
love doctor out there whoís looking out for you.
Hereís something to chew on: when do women tell you about their other boyfriends? When
it suits them, right? When their Interest Level is on its way south of the Tropic of
Cancer, right? Hasnít it dawned on you that Meredith has a reason for insisting that
your relationship be kept part-time only? Donít be a sap, Hill. Youíve got too much
going for you.
So have a good time on your trip to Branson Ė or New Orleans, or Chicago, or wherever
you end up going -- with Cassandra. And you donít have to fret about her getting her
hands on you, because youíll be in separate rooms.
Remember, guys: if youíre breathing, thereís hope.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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