DO
YOU WANT TO BE WORSHIPPED OR NAGGED?
Women
Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Dear Doc Love,
Generally I agree with a lot of the things you have to say about women and the advice you
give to men. But your recent article on what guys should look for in women to understand
what high Interest Level is, is completely ludicrous. Now I agree that you should only
date someone who respects you. I agree that you must be confident, not take any of her
crap, not revolve your life around her, and finally, not date her if she is playing you
for a chump. But the list of examples that you gave of the kinds of things that a woman
must do in order for her guy to be happy with her, I mean come on!
I don't know if you were joking or not, but its seems like you want men to look for
slaves, not wives. There are plenty of women like that. You can buy them from a Russian
mail order bride site. I just don't believe that you can truly be happy with someone who
worships the ground you walk on.
Most guys I know hate that kind of worship as much as women do. Don't give guys
unrealistic things like "she compliments you frequently" and "her knees
buckle when she kisses you" to expect to find in a women. Just tell them to find
someone who will love them enough to tolerate their B.S. to a point, correct them when
they are wrong, and someone who has a common interest and finds them interesting. I just
don't buy it this time Doc. Like I said, I love your tips, love your column, but I just
don't believe that the women you describe exist unless you are looking for some pathetic
loser with low self-esteem.
Noel - who says that you don't really know what true love, is like
So, Noel,
What's your description of a woman with high Interest Level, a self-centered psycho
mercenary who constantly nags? An abusive user who hates men and is afraid of intimacy? Or
someone, who flops on the couch, eats bonbons and watches talk shows all day long?
Yes, I did say that you should look for a woman who "is consistently loving and
affectionate, fiercely loyal and thinks of you as her hero." Now where do you get the
idea that a woman like that, is a slave? Don't you think it's possible for a woman to
exemplify those qualities and also have brains, class and a successful career? Would only
a pathetic loser behave that way? Give me a break!
It sounds as if you've never been with a woman who has actually had high Interest Level in
you. You've probably been spending too much time with women whose interest in you have
been in the 40-49% range and you think that that's the best any guy can expect. Women with
that level of interest will merely "tolerate your BS." I think you've become
bitter and disillusioned and have given up on having an exciting, romantic, loving
relationship.
And, Noel, the fact that a woman "turns into a playful little girl when she's around
you," as I described in the article, has nothing to do with her level of self-esteem.
You should be with a woman who has high self-esteem and who has also maintained some of
her youthful innocence. Someone who is light hearted and playful with you.
Granted, my list of the qualities of a woman with high Interest Level is very
comprehensive. I don't expect a woman to exemplify all of those qualities all of the time.
But she better cover most of them some of the time, or she's not worth being with.
You must understand Noel, that marriage at best, is extremely tough. But the more
flexible, sweet and giving the woman is the better the odds that the relationship will go
the distance. So why not stack the odds in your favor by being with a sweetheart rather
than a high maintenance user? At least you do understand that it's important for the woman
to respect her man.
My advice to you, Noel, is to have a more optimistic, positive attitude. You've got to get
that it's a good thing to have a woman who thinks that you are the cat's meow. And the
kind of women I described does exist. You just need to raise your own self esteem level
high enough to believe that you deserve to be with a woman like that, and that you have
the power to attract her.
Remember, guys, a little bit of worship from your woman is a good thing.
To send me your love questions or to find out more about The
"System," visit me at http://www.doclove.com
or call (800) 404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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