SHOULD
YOU MARRY AN OVERWEIGHT WOMAN?
Women
Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Dear Doc Love,
I've checked out several of your articles and I must tell you that I am appalled at what
I've read.
You seem to think that any woman who isn't anorexic is not worth the time of day. What's
with you? You make fun of Oprah and Rosie O'Donnell for being overweight, and then you
praise skinny women with plastic breasts. Did you ever consider that perhaps Rosie and
Oprah are the size they are because that's the way nature made them? Why should they
starve themselves for men's approval?
Many loving sweet kind women are overlooked because they don't fit your of rigid standards
of beauty. I encourage you to check out the following facts and figures:
There are 3 billion women who don't look like supermodels and only a handful who do.
- Marilyn Monroe wore a size 14.
- If Barbie were a real woman, she'd have to walk on all fours due to her exaggerated
proportions.
- The average woman weighs 144 lb. and wears between a size 12-14.
- The models in the magazines are airbrushed - not perfect!
- A psychological study in 1995 found that three minutes spent looking at a fashion
magazine caused 70% of women readers to feel depressed, guilty, and shameful.
- Models twenty years ago weighed 8% less than the average woman. Today they weigh 23%
less.
And even though I know that you'll laugh at this, I'm including a little poem for you Doc,
as food for thought.
~ Beauty of a Woman ~
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears
The figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes
Because that is the doorway to her heart
The place where love lies
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole
But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul
Lucinda - who thinks that you are a total bigot Doc Love
Dear Lucinda,
The Bible says that gluttony is a sin. But when I watch overweight preachers on TV Sunday
morning they speak only of the other six deadly sins. Why? Because in America, fat is
sacred.
Yesterday I saw an obese woman using a cane to waddle her way through the supermarket
because she couldn't carry her own weight. With her tree trunk calves and her tiny feet in
her tiny shoes, she looked like a 747 sporting Volkswagen tires.
Now, Lucinda, I know what you would say about her. You'd say she's not responsible for her
slovenly, self-destructive eating habits. She can't and need not control how much she
eats. She should be able to look however she wants and not be judged on her appearance.
And everyone knows that it wouldn't be politically correct to criticize her.
Well I don't care how much the various "full figured" gals may glorify their
excess poundage. Fat is not beautiful and, more importantly, it's not healthy. Overweight
people are at risk for diabetes, heart attacks, high blood pressure and wearing out the
living room carpet before its time. Food is meant to be used for fuel, not as a way to
escape life's problems.
When a man picks a potential long-term partner, he must first look at her Interest Level.
Then through the process of dating, he should evaluate her habits and attitudes. Does she
have integrity? Is she a giver or a taker? Is she structured or flexible? Is she
self-reliant? Is she a functioning adult? Does she practice self-control or is she run by
her emotions? And does she have any unhealthy habits or addictions like, drugs, tobacco or
FOOD!
Most importantly, I want men to pick women who are not overweight for partners so they
will raise the kids to be healthy and not have eating disorders. Statistics show that if
the parents are overweight, 90% of the time the kids also turn out to have weight
problems.
Lucinda, please allow me to clear up something. I've never said that all women should be
model thin. Nature has made both ectomorphs and endomorphs of both genders. And each body
type has its corresponding healthy weight range (and unhealthy weight range.)
Additionally, different men have different tastes in women. Some men prefer medium sized
gals and some get excited about gals who are on the hefty side. America is a free country
and to each his own. But the Reality Factor says that the majority of men prefer women who
are not overweight. Like it or not Lucinda, that's the way it is on the street, just as
women prefer wealthy men to guys who are on welfare.
Lucinda, let's get real. Be honest. Imagine that you had a friend who was trying to set
you up with a handsome, charming fellow who weighed 300 pounds and would crush a camel if
he tried to ride one. When you told your friend (as you surely would) that "he's just
not my type," would you be any different from a guy who rejects a pretty girl because
she's the same height and weight as Oprah?
By the way, the reason that models now weigh 23% less than the average woman instead of 8%
less is because the average woman is now 15% heavier than she was 20 years ago. The models
aren't getting thinner. People are getting fatter! Government statistics report that over
40% of the population are clinically overweight. To you Psych majors - they're obese.
Now you've provided us with another interesting statistic Lucinda. Seven out of ten women
get bummed out when they look at fashion magazines. But curiously, women don't seem to
feel depressed, guilty and shameful enough when they look at those magazines to stop
buying those magazines.
Now here is a poem for you, Lucinda:
Roses are red, violets are blue. If you want your girlfriend to look like Oprah, just have
her eat like her too.
Remember, guys, if she's fat now, just wait until after you've said "I do."
To send me your love questions or to find out more about The
"System," visit me at http://www.doclove.com
or call (800) 404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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