TALKING ON THE PHONE ANTI-CHALLENGE?
Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I met Miss Right about three months ago, and we hit it off quickly. She told me she didn't
want to play games and that she believed in being totally honest. So I told her the truth,
that I hadn't dated in quite awhile and that I was very available. Well, wouldn't you know
it, she lost interest in me after I told her that. She went from about 85% Interest Level
in me to probably about 40%.
So, I got your book a few weeks ago, and even though I thought it was probably a lost
cause, I started to apply some of the principles of "The System" with her. Well,
I have to tell you that your stuff works because the next time we went out she was all
over me. It went so well that we made plans to go kayaking in two weeks.
I called her a few days later just to talk. She said she was too busy to talk but she told
me to call her on Thursday. I called her on Thursday and I asked her if she wanted to go
out before our little trip. She said - yes - she had Monday off, so I said "Good,
we'll go out then."
Then I called her on Sunday just to confirm things for Monday and to chat for awhile,
hoping that I could raise her Interest Level a little more before we went out the next
day. We talked for about 45 minutes about all kinds of things, and I got her to laugh a
few times too.
So, we got together the next day and things seemed to be OK but she wasn't all over me
like the last time. I guess I must have done something to lower her Interest Level again,
but I don't know what that was. What did I do wrong Doc, and what would you say should be
my next move?
Carlos - who wants to know what to do now
Let's start at the beginning of your story and work our way through it.
First of all, whenever a woman tells you that she doesn't want to play games, you can bet
your sweet bippy that the games have already begun. In fact, your odds of finding any
woman who doesn't play games are about as good as finding a ten-year-old who's never heard
of Harry Potter. Your initial mistake, Carlos, was that you fell for this girl's rap,
decided to be "honest" and let her know that you hadn't had a date since Michael
Jackson had a nose.
You thought that this gesture of "honesty" would raise her Interest Level in
you, but of course it didn't. To you Psych majors, she got turned off when he did what she
said she wanted. Fortunately, Carlos, you started studying "The System" and you
changed course. Just remember, for the future; never buy into this "you can be honest
with me" crap from a female. They'll always penalize you for doing it. And they'll
always deny that they penalize you for doing it.
It's great that you're gaining an understanding of the importance of doing things to raise
a woman's Interest Level, Carlos. But, you're still going about it all wrong! You need to
read and study ALL of the materials. The way that you raise a woman's Interest Level is by
being a Challenge. Now, Carlos, ask yourself, would a guy who is a Challenge be calling a
girl every few days to chat with her like one of her girlfriends? Would a guy who is an
unpredictable wildman be dutifully dialing up the woman he is wooing according to the
schedule she has dictated to him?
If Alexander Graham Bell knew what blunders men would make with his invention, he would
have scrapped the whole idea. The telephone should be used only for making dates. That's
it. If she wants to talk more after you've made your plans with her, tell her to save the
conversation for the date.
Also, once you've made a date with a girl, do not call her for another date before you go
out on the date that you last arranged with her, unless you want her to think of you as a
needy Loser who hasn't scored since the 90's.
The best thing to do now, Carlos, is wait a full two weeks to call her. When you do,
commit to keeping the conversation down to less than five minutes. Then, when you're out
with her, keep her laughing and only do things that a guy who is a Challenge would do.
Remember, guys, talking on the phone is anti-Challenge
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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