MEN, ISN'T IT TIME TO STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
In reference to your advice received through the askmen.com web site: I, too, was a victim
of marital fraud. The signs and behavior were there, but I was also of the mindset that
"it will never happen to me." In my case however, her 'lover' was not another
man, but money!
Fifteen months after buying a house (of which I was the sole mortgage holder), six years
of marriage, and two toddlers, I arrived home from work one day, only to be arrested on
phony domestic abuse charges. (In my state, this is the only way she could have me removed
from the home). This was done with the full support (both emotional and financial.) of a
meddling mother-in-law. And with the prospect of a fairly large divorce settlement dancing
in her head, she was even quoted by mutual friends as being "better off financially
without me than with me!"
Through a seven-month brutal divorce trial, my lawyer and I decided to pursue a Marital
Fraud defense. Without getting too detailed, let me just say, we nailed her in court! (I
think she thought I was going to roll over on this whole thing.) She could prove no
alcohol or domestic abuse had occurred, which was her main contention for filing. As a
result of these rulings, she was forced to share custody of the kids and her share of the
divorce settlement was reduced twice!
I believe the Court determined that even though it is relatively easy to get a divorce,
you cannot end a marriage just because one party 'feels like it,' especially when children
For any and all men who are being victimized by this kind of fraud, seek justice, it can
be had! Thanks to you Doc for your advice and wisdom. I have always had your wisdom in my
head, but could not quite put my finger on it - until I read it!
Vernon - who wasn't afraid to fight
Well, I see that YOU'LL be never be a guest on Oprah! The concept that men are victimized
by women does not play well to female- dominated audiences. So much for truth and justice
on daytime talk shows. It's tough to find any men (or women) on TV and radio talk shows,
standing up for men. Where are the male love doctors? Where are the coaches helping the
I could continue for pages with my righteous rant, but instead, Vernon, allow me to extend
my congratulations to you for emerging from this nightmare relatively unscathed. Most
guys, who have found themselves in situations similar to yours, have wound up getting
In our politically correct American culture, the courts, as we all know, tend to side with
the female over the male. As a public service announcement, they should post their policy
at the entrance to the courtroom: "Men: guilty until proven innocent." Starting
out with this kind of disadvantage, you need a lawyer who can kick ass, and it sounds as
if you chose the right one Vernon.
As you've probably figured out by now, this big ugly mess that you got yourself into,
Vernon could have been avoided if you had married a good woman. Your gal had more hidden
up her sleeve than Winona Ryder at Sak's.
Just like a lot of guys, you weren't as conscientious and thorough, as you should have
been in evaluating the character of your bride to be. It saddens my heart to see that the
most powerful nation on earth cannot cut its fifty-percent divorce rate. It is time for
men to take control of their relationships. It is time for men to get mad. Not at women,
but at their own lack of good judgment.
So, Vernon, you've learned a painful lesson. But your painful experience will motivate you
to be more discriminating in your future relationship choices. There are women out there
who have integrity. There are women out there who are loving and giving. There are women
out there who know how to build a man up instead of tear him down. Keep studying "The
System" so you can, as the Bible says, "separate the wheat from the chaff."
Remember, guys, if you find yourself in a similar situation, don't be intimidated, fight
To send me your love questions or to find out more about The "System," visit me
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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